Keith Pennington
by havoc
My Dad died from cancer one year ago, today I’d like to write something about him.
Dad liked animals, (certain) children, the woods, hunting, fine guns and knives, books, history, sharing his knowledge, strong coffee, and arguing about politics.
He grew up partly at my grandparents’ summer camp in Michigan called Chippewa Ranch, and partly on their cattle ranch in Georgia.
Dad’s favorite book, The Old Man and the Boy, is almost a blueprint for how he wanted to live and what kind of father he wanted to be. Robert Ruark’s epigraph in that book says “Anyone who reads this book is bound to realize that I had a real fine time as a kid,” and we spent our childhood weekends doing all sorts of things other kids weren’t allowed to do. In my copy of the book when I was 15, Dad wrote “This is all you really need to know, all you have to do is ‘do'”.
I inherited a lot more of Dad’s reading-a-book-constantly side than his outdoor adventure side, but a little of both rubbed off.
Dad signed up for Vietnam, and while he never talked about it much, I’m guessing in some ways it was the last time he mostly enjoyed his day job.
His closest friend summarized his military career:
Diverted in 1968 from assignment to 5th SFGA to the Americal Division he was a LRRP Platoon Commander for his first tour. He extended in country to serve with the II Corps Mike Force in their separate 4th Battalion in Kontum. He chose to command a Rhade company in preference to available staff positions and was wounded severely during the Joint Mike Force Operation at Dak Seang in 1970 sufficient to require medevac to Japan with a severe leg wound from taking a grenade at about 4 feet while leading an assault on an NVA position. He was awarded three Silver Stars if the third one ever caught up with him–he certainly never searched it out.
Dad wasn’t one to define himself by military glory days, though. I think the adventure in Vietnam was just one more adventure, preceded by others, and he continued throughout his life.
One of the themes running through Dad’s life was his dislike for convention, and people who were too conventional in his eyes. He wasn’t afraid to name his son Havoc, for example. He loved revolutionaries and adventurers of all stripes, right-wing or left-wing. His military dogtags list his religion as “animist.” As we were growing up, he had nothing to say about religion one way or the other; he felt we ought to figure it out for ourselves. That was another of his parenting philosophies, he wasn’t going to tell us what to think. The fastest way to earn Dad’s contempt was to have an opinion just because other people had it, or to have an ignorant opinion because you hadn’t read enough books.
Another quick way to earn contempt was to be unprepared or incompetent. We had to have enough equipment at all times; I still have a basement full of equipment and a house full of books. Some old friends may remember laughing about my pile of assorted axes and hatchets. Dad could never remember for sure whether I had enough, including the several necessary varieties, so he’d send another one along every so often.
Whenever we got into some activity, whether cycling or leatherworking or hunting or backpacking, we’d end up with several times more equipment for that activity than we could ever use, as Dad tried everything out to be sure we had what worked best. We’d also have a complete library of books on the topic. And we got into a lot of activities.
Dad loved anything he thought was neat, which included most animals. We had a lot of crazy pets, from a squirrel to a 500-pound wild hog. As I’m looking through old photos, he’s always hanging out with a dog.
It turned out that he more or less killed himself with cigarettes. He’d always rationalized bad habits saying he didn’t want to get old and dependent anyway, but in the end I think he’d rather have lived to see his grandchildren grow up. He died at home with family and friends, and was only confined to bed for his last day or two.
When he died my own son was six months old, and I stood outside the house where I grew up and hugged my son for all I was worth. Whenever I start to think about my son knowing my Dad, learning some of the things I learned as a kid, that’s what brings on the tears. I wish we’d had some adventures with the three of us.
I know my son and I will have some adventures anyhow, and I’ll think about Dad every time, and tell my son what advice Grandpa would have had, as best I can remember it.
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Does it make you embarrassed to just sit behind a computer screen all day?
I’m old enough to be comfortable with myself while appreciating there are other ways to be.
Plus I usually use a standing desk 😉 and I get out plenty. Dad probably spent more time reading a book than anything else, so he had that side as well.
I only got to meet your Dad once, but I loved how he took some time to size me up in that short time. One thing I can read in this is that his memory is most honored by how you live and who you are.
Some obscure references in this post I guess.
A “Rhade company” was made up of indigenous Vietnamese, US special forces were training them: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/E_De_people
Horace Kephart wrote a book called “Our Southern Highlanders” and campaigned to create the Great Smoky Mountains national park. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Horace_Kephart
here’s far more info than Wikipedia has:
http://www.ranger95.com/military_history/sf_vietnam/chap2_civ_def_gp.html
Awesome!
Excellent piece, Havoc. Your Dad would have been proud to have read it. Hell, when I read your piece about your Dad, I was proud to have read it.
Wish you much success in bringing up young B. and you could do worse than The Old Man and the Boy as a parenting text. You have an advantage there because Ruark wrote from an unhappy childhood and substituted an idyllic one for the reality. You lived with a real model to serve as an example and inspiration.
Your Dad lived well and died well given Atropos’ cutting of the skein at the time and place. If there is a real regret other than your Mother’s loss, it is that Keith couldn’t spend the time with your son and your sister’s children that I know he would have liked to have spent. I know that you were all left things which certain represent much of the essence of the man.
Not exactly any obscure references in your quote, by the way, except for folks who didn’t serve in the Mike Forces or who don’t read enough beyond Wikipedia–which if the quote can be believed is an inaccurate description of the Rhade anyway. The quote wasn’t written for folks who wouldn’t understand and you didn’t write for those folks anyway.
RWJ
Havoc that was touching and insightful. Thank you for sharing
Hi Havoc,
Thank you for sharing your life with us. Honored.
sri
That was lovely, Havoc. Thank you.
Normally I comment on blogposts I read through Planet GNOME only sporadically, but for here I want to use the opportunity to say that I think your dad was a great man. What I appreciate especially is that your dad thought you had to developed your view on religion on your own and that he didn’t force it on you. I love my parents, but they did raise me with their religion, which failed in the end.
server in II Corps Mike Force, 3rd bn, 232 company. sf guys are brothers for ever. mike force yards and sf have a bond only those who served together will understand. your father seems to be the quite type with more show than tell, this is how most sf are. remember he loved what he was and what he did. all the best skip.
I stumbled across your blog today and got a jolt; I was a camper at Chippewa Ranch when your father was there. And as soon as I saw his name the image I got was him in a khaki shirt and headband, just like the photo dated 1971.
He was a figure of some mystery, fear and awe among the campers-had been to Vietnam (the only vet many of us knew at the time) and was great with the horses. I think we only spoke once but he made quite an impression.
I am sorry for your loss, and thank you both for sharing something about your father and for bringing back some memories of a wonderful time in my life.
I’ll second the part about strong coffee and arguing politics. The first time I met him has to have been in the late ninties, and have fond but all too few memories of him.
One strong impression that I came away with right from the start was that he was very proud of you. He didn’t talk a lot about it but it was clearly evident.
In retrospect I wish I had gotten to know him better.
Thanks for sharing.
Havoc, thank you so much for sharing these thoughts about your Dad. He and I corresponded a bit on line, and he has taught me a great deal. I have much respect for your Dad, and miss him terribly…I can only imagine your loss.
I met your father once at a camp out a few months before his passing. I feel it important for you to know that in the brief time I had to speak with him and sit around while he spoke with others, one of the most prominent things that stuck out to me was his love of his family and the joy he had with his children. What is most interesting is that I strongly suspected his children grown, yet he still had that glimmer in his eye that young fathers do. I am sorry for your loss and it was an honor to meet and speak with him. He is remembered still in our camping group and is still highly esteemed.
I met your father about 10 years ago and saw him sporadically over the last decade (mostly outdoors).
He was a natural teacher and I loved his no nonsense, no BS approach. He taught me to throw a hawk and I learned more in an hour about black powder rifles (and their place in history) than should be humanly possible!
He also helped refine my current political views by always advocating for freedom.
It was an honor to know him and your blog post made me smile and cry!
Hello,
I too knew your father online, and over the couple of years came to respect his fine mind above many others. One of my favorite qualities of him is exactly that he did not suffer fools gladly, and his oratory skills were second to none. We shared many common ideas, and I miss his acerbic posts very much. He was a great man, and I wish I knew him in person.
When your Aunt Ginny told me your name, I said to her,”That was just like Keith.” Your comments on your father are beautiful, and they sound so like the Keith I knew. At sixteen he announced to those of us in his circle of friends that he had decided to sleep less per night since too much of our lives were wasted in sleep. He was definitely NOT conventional, but very admired by his friends. I’m the student who tied with your Dad for Valedictorian of our class of 1962. When our grades were tied, school officials looked to “quality points” to break the tie — this was time spent on athletic teams, clubs, and school/community service. We were still tied and drew lots to determine who would give the Val speech at graduation. I did the speech, but always felt that “doing this ritual speech” didn’t matter to Keith — now I’m more positive that it didn’t.
I’m proud to have known him and tie with him at ANYTHING! His legacy lives on through you and your sister and your children, and I’m sure it is very secure.
Hello Havoc. I knew your dad for the 7 summers I spent growing up at Chippewa Ranch. I just found out about Keith’s passing and I was truly saddened, although obviously it’s been many years. Your dad was a special person in many ways. He could be tough, but never mean. Especially to the younger kids, he could also be really sweet. As I grew up I started noticing how handsome he was. He had premature grey hair which really didn’t hurt his looks at all. Lots of girls had criushes on him but he seemed to be always year after year with one girl named Jane. Everyone thought they would get married one day. Keith was an incredible athlete and could do just about anything physical that he tried. He also knew alot about nature, wildlife and the outdoors. I have very fond memories of Chippewa and the entire Pennington family and I’m glad to see that Keith had such a special son. BTW I am also a Unitarian-Universalist as I see you are, apparently. I really enjoyed this tribute to your dad on this blog. On my FB page I have a picture of me on my horse at Chippewa that your grandfather Wendell took and also a shot of me at the ranch site in 2006. It was like visiting mecca. I see another campper made a comment here. That’s the kind of impression your dad and the camp made on so many of us. I am very sorry for your loss, and thank you for having a forum where I could share my memories of your dad. Peace.
Jan, I too was a camper at Chippewa Ranch. Probably the best time of my life. I remember your name, but I am not sure of the tie frame. I went to camp from age 10 to 17, always for nine weeks. The entire Pennington family and Adams family were wonderful. We all learned a lot from them.
Hello Tina, I just noticed this. I was at Chippewa from ’63 to ’69 ages 8 to 14, and they were also the best summers of my life. You may also remember my sister and brother, same last name, who went for most of those years as well. Great to see the big impression left on others. I recently reconnected with one of my good friends from those years and it was wonderful catching up. Thanks for replying.
For a year now I have had Keith Pennington on my mind and I don’t know why. After 44 years with no contact I still remember being in Basic Training with him, the most military man I ever knew. Out of 200 men he and I were the only ones to become officers. I ran across him in Vietnam and he was happy to have gotten all the assignments he wanted. I searched for him today on google knowing after 44 years there was no chance of finding him. I hit this on the first click.
I liked him, we were best friends in Basic. I’ll miss him. I am honored to have known him and I wanted to say hello to him once again.
Chris Miller georgiacamper@yahoo.com
Like Chris Miller, I haven’t talked with your family in about 50 years, since I was a teenager at Chippewa Ranch. I bunked in the same dorm with Keith and knew him for about 10 years, while growing up. He was one of the strongest, most positive male influences I’ve had in my life. I’d like to tell you more sometime. Is your mother alive? Best wishes.
P.S. I have a bunch of photos from back then also!
Knew your dad thru my years at Chippewa Ranch and although we were quite competitive we spent alot of time together. A great guy who I am sad is no longer around. I think of him everytime we pass thru Georgia…
Mike, I remember you – a great time in our lives. I was a camper from age 10-17 – wonderful time!!!!!
Havoc
I don’t know if you will remember me or not. I worked with your Dad at UPS. Not sure if you recall the time when you and your Dad and me and my son went camping one weekend in Bond Swamp. On the way into the swamp the canoe carrying the supplies turned over. But we still managed to have a great time.
I considered your Dad a close friend, a comrade if you will. The world is certainly less brighter without him.
He was a true American Hero!
Thank you Mike. I think I was pretty young on that trip but I remember hearing about it and you over the years.
I was curious about your name and found my way here. Very nice remembrance of/for your dad – got misty eyed reading and reflecting on my daughter and folks.
havoc great piece on your dad I worked at UPS with him best supervisor I ever had also was blessed to share many good times with you guys at Sure Shot Hunting Club great sportsman was always so amazed how he could slip past you in the swamp while hunting and you never saw him we kind of nicknamed him jungle Jim always will treasure those good times.
Hello, Havoc!
Thank you so much for writing about your Dad! I got to thinking about the familyas I just moved to Georgia from Ohio. He was my hero back in the 60’s at the Ranch. I remember that he had a great singing voice. It’s too bad that you lost him so soon, but he always was one to go his own way. Thank you for sharing your memories.
Your dad meant a lot to me, he helped me when I asked, and when I didn’t ask for help he gave me that look, of “Are you that stupid?” He loved hard work, and was always doing something. Your right about the animals, and the books, he usually had one or both always near him. I remember when he bought the Harley to camp and then proceeded to change the front end forks. Brand new bike and he wanted something different. Or the time he brought the Ford Mustang Boss 429 car to the ranch, I washed that car a dozen times just to be around it. And then the last time I saw him was at his dads funeral, Same guy 35 years later, still busy fixing a deer stand. Looked at me shook my hand then said, will you hold that end while he drilled the top. We worked on that stand for about 40 mins talked a little, got in his car, went for a ride, stopped, got some more tools and went cleared brush near the cemetery. It’s as if nothing had changed in 35 years, still driven, still working. We will all miss him, and be thankful for the knowledge that he instilled in me and others. God Bless you and your family.